Day 16 Communication

16. Communication:

Communication is key. Whatever the problem, if you can talk about it you will greatly improve your chances of improving the situation. It can be all too easy to lose your temper and to say things that you later regret when you find yourself in a difficult situation. At these times it is essential that you remain as calm as possible and move away from the situation if at all possible so that you can gain control of your feelings. Talk to your teen about what concerns you and make sure that you give them the opportunity to share their point of view.

You may not agree with what they say but if they know that you are really willing to listen to their point of view they are much more likely to respond positively to what you have to say.

You may not agree with them but you can let them know that you are pleased that they have managed to communicate their views with you in an appropriate way.

In life, if we feel listened to, we are much more willing to listen.

If you do get angry and lose your temper don't be afraid to admit your mistake and apologise. This won't lead to you losing face. It is more likely that they will respect your honesty.

Equally if your child loses their temper and says something in anger, try to forgive them when they seek forgiveness. We all make mistakes and providing we learn from them, that's OK.

If you can keep the lines of communication open, you are in a good position to help and support your teen through life.