2. Alcohol

Alcohol is a very emotive subject. We all hold different views on alcohol. Some of us drink and others don't. Some don't feel the need to and others have quit for their own reasons, so when teenagers start drinking, parental reaction varies enormously.

Some parents and carers are relaxed about their teen having a drink or two while others might assume their teen is in danger if they come home after having had one drink.

It is important to make sure you have the facts before talking to your teen. You need to know what The Law says on the subject as well as the health risks and the myths.

There are useful books and websites on the subject that parents and carers can study before talking to their teens. 'Drinkaware' is one such site that can help you to be clear on the issues.

https://www.drinkaware.co.uk

Once you have the facts, it is important to look at your own attitudes and behaviour around drink as what you do will greatly influence your teen. If you have a problem with drinking your teen is likely to be aware of this so lecturing them is unlikely to have a positive impact. The 'do as I say but not as I do' approach is also unlikely to work.

Teens are much more likely to listen to you if you listen to them too. If you stick to the facts and keep calm, you are more likely to be able to get through to your teen.

Timing is also key. It is not a good idea to bring up the subject of drinking too much when either of you has had a drink as this is unlikely to lead to a reasoned discussion. It is more likely to escalate into an argument.

Try discussing the issue when both of you are in a relaxed mood. Sometimes a TV programme will cover the subject of drinking and then you can discuss the issues a fictional character is facing with your teen as this makes the subject a lot less emotive.

If either you or your teen has a drink problem it is important that you get help with this. Drinkaware helps you with this offering tips on how to cut down as well as information about how alcohol can affect your health, your finances and your family.