11. Sex:
Sex is one of the main sources of
conflict in families. Some families have strict rules about sex
before marriage that aren't necessarily shared by their teens.
Parents and carers also worry that
their teen may be exploited by another person or that they may put
themselves at risk of pregnancy or sexual infection. These concerns
may well be valid but it is important that parents and carers
approach the situation in a way that is likely to be well received,
if they are to be effective.
Choose a time to discuss your concerns
with your teen when you are both feeling calm. Make sure you don't
jump to conclusions. Just because you think your teen may be taking
risks you may be wrong. Stick to the facts and make sure you listen
to what they have to say.
If you do not approve of sex before
marriage and do not condone this in your home, you have every right
to insist that your teen sleeps separately from their boyfriend or
girlfriend in your home but be aware that they may not honour your
wishes when they are away from the house.
Try and ensure that you are well
informed and know where your teen can go for advice on contraception
if they are in a sexual relationship.
The NHS offers an informative website
that they can go to to find out what choices they have regarding
contraception.
Keep the lines of communication open.
Listen to them and they are far more likely to listen to you when you
have something important to say.
This issue can be more concerning if
your teen is below the age of consent, particularly if their partner
is over 18.
'Think U Know' is a very useful website
that deals with this issue. It is important that you and your teen
know the legal situation when approaching this subject.
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