Day 75 High Expectations

75. High Expectations:


It is good to have high expectations so long as they are realistic. If your expectations of your teen are too high then you may be setting them up to fail.
It is good to have challenging goals to work towards but if your teen is not very academic it may be unrealistic to expect them to get top grades in their exams. If your teen is not sporty they are unlikely to be selected for a sports team if they are not able to compete with the opposition.
Find out what your teens interests and talents are and praise their achievements in that field.
It is OK to aim for something and to fail. You learn when you fail and this helps you to get better next time.
Sometimes it is not you that has high expectations of your teen. It may be another family member or it may be themselves. If the family member is applying too much pressure it would be good for you to talk to them and let them know that they are causing your teen unwarranted stress.
If they have overly high expectations of themselves they may feel very disappointed if they do not achieve the goal they have set themselves. This is where you can be there to listen to them, reassure them that all is not lost and you can help them to keep things in perspective.
It is good to expect the best from people as people can achieve great things when other people have faith in their ability. It is great to have high expectations of yourself and your teen and it is very rewarding when people rise to meet these expectations.
If we don't aim very high we are unlikely to achieve much.
If we don't put ourselves forward for things because we fear competition then we are unlikely to achieve our dreams.
Some people lack confidence in themselves and so they limit their achievements.
As Henry Ford said,”If you think you can do a thing or you think you can't do a thing, you are right!”
If we want something we sometimes need to risk what we currently have in order to achieve what we desire.
If we never take a chance or risk failure our life can become rather sheltered and dull.
Teach your teen that it is OK to try and fail and if we do fall, we can pick ourselves up and try again. Being resilient is a vital life-skill.